Can any good come out of giving W some "space"

[brknheart]

I just emailed a friend of my wifes, telling her I haven't talked to my wife in a week. I said I dont feel like my wife cares about me, yet my wife says she does. Her friend said actions speak louder than words. I replied back, true, that I wish we could at least be talking and doing things one night a week, making this situation productive. She replied back that she wouldn't waste her time at this point. I replied back if thats her way of saying my wife says its over. She replied back, thats her best guess. Last week her friend said my wife flip flops back and forth every other day, that she isnt sure what she is going to do in the end. I know I shouldn't give up unless I feel its time, but comments like this take hope away from me. The Divorce Remedy book says never give up, even in the darkest hours. I feel so helpless sitting back and doing nothing. Its like seeing something moving further and further away and Im not doing anything to get closer to it.