You're right to be moving away from doing things based on whether or not they will make your wife angry, and placating her, but you're NOT supposed to be doing them based on "what I wanted." You are to begin doing them based on "What is THE RIGHT THING TO DO in this situation? What is the thing that God Himself would have me do, if He were standing in front of me?"
A common mistake for new DB'ers is that they swing wildly from old pleasing/placating/'Mr. Nice Guy' behaviors, into selfish, irresponsible ones. Yes, begin to learn to look out for your own interests, but do so from the "Right Thing to Do" perspective.
Puppy
This is so true. I think if we think about it this way, THE RIGHT THING TO DO, we will come out ahead.
Me:49 W: 41 Kids=D14/D14/S10 Married: 15 Together: 16 Bomb: 08/26/09 Currently: separated but in the different houses.
