Doc, sorry if my last post was flippant. This is her crap not yours. Now that you are aware of your issues, you are doing a charateristically superb job of dealing with your issues. We have to tell ourselves this over and over again that our spouses have to make choices about facing thier problems. We cannot do it for them, no matter how hard we want to or try to. Moving away from the habit of assuming responsibility for her problems is healthy for you, for your kids, your wife and, ultimately, your relationship.
You can't help a patient unless the show up at the ED first. You also couldn't help them if you didn't have the skills and training to know how to appropriately help the patient. W is the same. She has to show up. If we are healthy and they show up, then there are things we can do to help.
