I see where you are coming from. Thanks for taking the time and helping me. I have gotten a lot more assertive. I didn't let that 6:45 wake up call go by without telling her that she was being disrespectful. I don't let her get away with that $hit anymore. You had me pegged from the start.
There are a number of really HOT women after me now. I am interested in a few of them. That is what has me concerned. If I go down that road, I may burn this bridge to what I really want: a reconciliation. I have stooped to her level. Isn't that what she wants? It would vindicate her actions.
If she doesn't change herself tho.... Would I be able to live with a reconciliation? She hasn't spoken my LL in 13 years either. I know I'm not 100% to blame here. I just want to work on my part.
Me:49 W: 41 Kids=D14/D14/S10 Married: 15 Together: 16 Bomb: 08/26/09 Currently: separated but in the different houses.
There are a number of really HOT women after me now. I am interested in a few of them. That is what has me concerned. If I go down that road, I may burn this bridge to what I really want: a reconciliation. I have stooped to her level. Isn't that what she wants? It would vindicate her actions.
Catty moment...
Let me guess, they're nurses? LoLoLoL
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
You let her get away with hitting you once. You shouldn't have. But let her know it is not happening again. She makes a move to hit you and you call the police and file charges. This is no way to live.
I don't know what state you live in. But if it is one that has adultery as grounds for divorce, then she may be hoping that you will have an affair. You could be playing right into her hands.
Yeah, Nurses and some are female athletes in the community. I'm not really proud of it, I just know that I will be alright if I get a D. But mindfull, I don't want to go there. I want my wife! I think she's HOT.
Me:49 W: 41 Kids=D14/D14/S10 Married: 15 Together: 16 Bomb: 08/26/09 Currently: separated but in the different houses.
I don't want to go there. I want my wife! I think she's HOT.
I don't care if she's hot. What you described is assault, and is unacceptable.
And no, don't go pursuing other women while you are still married. You're correct that your wife would certainly use it against you.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
Doc, sorry if my last post was flippant. This is her crap not yours. Now that you are aware of your issues, you are doing a charateristically superb job of dealing with your issues. We have to tell ourselves this over and over again that our spouses have to make choices about facing thier problems. We cannot do it for them, no matter how hard we want to or try to. Moving away from the habit of assuming responsibility for her problems is healthy for you, for your kids, your wife and, ultimately, your relationship.
You can't help a patient unless the show up at the ED first. You also couldn't help them if you didn't have the skills and training to know how to appropriately help the patient. W is the same. She has to show up. If we are healthy and they show up, then there are things we can do to help.
Doc, you are playing with fire in relationships with other women. You are feeding your ego in a dangerous way that is contrary to your stated intentions. My advise would be to back off. Hope I can take my own advise.
