Rocked, Wanted to share something I read online that has helped me quite a bit. Don't think I can post a link, but if you go copy and paste this you should be able to get there.
When the time is right, I plan on sharing with W also. I feel like we're pretty much getting there, but there are a few things she could do to get us over that last hurdle and if she reads this, maybe it'll help her see things from my POV and not so much how this has all affected her.
Hope it helps.
H4U, Thank you so much for this link! I have not had time to read it all yet, but it looks really good... I'm glad you mentioned "when the time is right, I plan on sharing with W also." I don't think the time is right to share this with H, things are still pretty fresh and raw. Had another trigger last night and we talked about it. H was quite shocked to find out I have images burned in my mind of them together... what I have imagined of them together. It didn't even occur to him that I would be experiencing anything like that. It seemed to create a deeper level of remorse for him, as well as a deeper level of empathy that he has for me. It was one step further along for us...
