Well, doing what I wanted didn't get me the result I wanted. So you are probobly correct. In a way, she was testing me to see if her anger could control me. It does, but not in a way apparent to her. I mean, she could have said, can you help me with the kids first. One of my biggest problems is that I would silently stiffle my wants to make her life easier, then, I would develop resentment for ignoring my needs, she would not be any happier which would cause me to nurse more resentment. So in a way, I was showing her that I was breaking that cycle. I think I was asserting a boundry through conduct. Typically, when I assert a boundry, she gets angry. I am kinda beating myself up now. Things were going well and now she is pissed.
