Keep your head up today. Get in a workout today no matter how crappy you feel. It will release endorphins which will make you feel better. Continue to keep your faith and trust in the Lord. God has a plan for you. Time heals all wounds.
Have a good day bro !
Me:49 W: 41 Kids=D14/D14/S10 Married: 15 Together: 16 Bomb: 08/26/09 Currently: separated but in the different houses.
Look at it this way, your wife could have served you at your office because she was too ashamed to do it herself. My wife did it herself but she had her mother there for support.
Me 35 Wife 34 Two daughters 8 years and 3 years Bomb 3/30/09 W filed 4/16/09 We met in'92 married in 2000 Divorce final
I hope this resonates somewhere within you and settles your troubled heart a little bit.
"Blessed is the man who perseveres under trial, because when he has stood the test, he will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him." James 1:12
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
It is terribly hurtful to be served papers be it at your home or place of employment. My attny had a saying that I really tried to remember ALL the time.... "you only have to get served once", "you only have to sign this document once" and so on.
It is a horrible feeling. It stinks out loud. The silver lining? You will NEVER have to experience it again. It is now an event for the history books.
Today will be a good day for you. You have tons of support here and lots of good and caring thoughts being sent your way.
And, while this is a leap perhaps she had you served at work so the children did not have to witness a process server coming to the house. Either way it is a terrible feeling but remember - it will NEVER happen again!
GIMA, if it helps at all, I was served at my office, in front of all of my coworkers, by a sherrif's deputy that I KNEW (xh was a cop in a local city at the time and had been with the sherrif's before that). He served me with a rather disgusted look on his face and a lot of "I'm so sorry's". He knew about the A.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Hi GIMA. I'm sorry friend, I do know the feeling. I want to share something with you that CIPA sent me after my wife served me with divorce papers...it was food for thought for me, and I hope it's food for thought for you. Incidentally, it is valid and very tue in my case...
"I know this may be hard to stomach, but a Divorce is about destruction. It's sad to fathom, but it's about the destruction of everything you and your WAW has created.
It's hard to imagine, but my cousin told me that I need to treat her as the enemy. This is the war where there are no winners. What we need to focus on now is how to minimize the fall out on the innocent (the children).
So what I'm focusing on is how to make sure the boys and I are as whole as possible after the destruction of what was built up over the past decade. We can't save it all, but we can make sure the future for us and our boys will be the best.
We owe this for ourselves as well as our boys. Get a good lawyer that can help keep your emotions in check and treat this as a business negotiations.
Things are screwed up because of the choices the WAW had made. Whatever role we had played, we have tried to atone for our mistakes. In the end, nothing we say or do now will hurt more than when our children cast their own judgement on what really caused the divorce.
Stay strong and protect yourself and your children.." - CIPA
This stuff is a b!tch GIMA, it's painful to the core. But I don't see any way 'around' it...it's something that, when it happens, we gotta go 'through'. Good luck, man.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
