Hi - thanks for satying with this thread and asking. I have to admit, my mind thinks differently every day about this situation as it continues along. I am "all over the place" in my thinking. Currently - my thoughts are (subject to change at a moment's notice...) - I was asked to leave our house three months ago but I stayed and will continue to stay. I was asked to leave my bedroom and sleep elsewhere, which I have been doing for three months (sofa). Yesterday - my wife cam home from visiting her parents in Florida for a week. Once home, she said we needed to talk about $, and we talked for 30 seconds while she checked her email on her blackberry and didn't give me the courtesy of eye contact. My older daughter (21) walked in from work and so that conversation ended, and thats that. I have to say that relationship aside, I feel like I am nothing to her if she can't even take 2 minutes to talk to me about some common $ issues/bills. It made me feel worthless. I am thinking for the first time that I want to be separated/divorved from her. She continues to put texts, emails, facebook as a priority. I kept my cool yesterday but after sleeping on it - I am boiling today with anger. She told me Xmas night that she doesn't know what she wants, but she thinks she wants to date (second time she has mentioned dating). So - I guess I am just ANGRY today. She has said she has felt this way for years now, so how long should I wait? Right now, I am thinking of moving back to my bedroom - letting her sleep on the couch if she can't stand my presence. I am also feeling that she should leave and go find what it is she wants, and leave me with my daughter - but I know she won't. Normally, I avoid confrontations like the plague and look for peaceful resolutions, but today I feel really pissed and ready to blow my top. I guess I'm not doing too good......


Me: 48
W: 47
M: 25 years T: 30 years
S24, D21, D11
Bomb dropped: "Not in love with you" 10/09
Separated Feb 2010