What can I do to save my marriage? Help

[Sleepy]

Mindfull,

Thanks for supporting me. In some of Robx's earlier posts, he described me very well. I would have rolled over and let them go in the past. I would have thought, great, they are escaping the cold and will have a good time. I need to work and keep food on the table anyway.

My kids understand very well. They are all pulling for me too. They can't understand how she can be the way she is.

I worked most of the night last night, but I got 3 hours of sleep. 3 am to 6 am. I drove home and started waking my kids up for school. I speak softly and kiss them awake. My W came in and said what are you doing! I said they have to get up for school. She said they get up at 6:45! I looked at my watch and it said 6:44. That is what I am dealing with here.

I am off today and she is working. She softened later when I told her I would pick them up and she could workout after work instead of picking them up and taking them to their activities.

I'm at a loss. I just read smartcookie's post again. I understand why she is so angry. I understand that it will take time to heal, for her to take her heart out of the box on that shelf. I am at a loss to understand if detaching, GAL, and conversing with other women is the right thing to do. I want the best for my family and my M, but I don't think D is the answer.

Mindfull, you are there. Can you help?