In MHO if your H files then he will lose his chance to cake-eat. He would rather keep that door open, sit on the fence so to speak. That does not mean you should give him that opportunity(to cake-eat). Also by telling you he wants a D he know that you will react poorly. This takes the pressure off of him. This is one reason you need to not fear the D word. Your H knows your reaction to it. FEAR! So he can control you through that fear.

Listen to Grace, focus on yourself and your children.


Me-70, D37,S36