What I was attempting to articulate is most of the fear, self hatred, guilt <insert difficult emotion here> all goes back to the very painful situation of having a marriage end.
There is nothing wrong with feeling what you (general you) must feel but allowing yourself to feel that way for a year or two is not healthy. At some point we all have to pull ourselves up and get our brain working in a new direction. Some people turn to counseling, religion, a new career, new hobbies... *something* that will assist them in starting to rebuild.
I understand those moments of self hatred won't just go away and from time to time they may crop up but based on my own experience it is very unhealthy (both emotionally and physically) to allow those thoughts to be so prominent all the time.
I felt really frightened when I read that post. What else is there to do? Keep talking about how sad, miserable or <insert emotion here> or at least try and help each other get our brains moving in a new way.
And, FWIW, even though my situation is over I still read this forum each day and participate in a "real life" divorce support group. I do that because I often need inspiration.
I simply feel that eventually some balance must be attained. It's not easy, I know. We all know.
