If I might be so bold, I think what Kevin hates is that his life isn't turning out the way he planned or at least envisioned it. I know that was an issue for me. I think what clued me in was the statement he made along the lines of "then I married W and life began."

Kevin, unless you were born married, you had a life before and will have a life after whatever happens. It's YOUR choice where you take it from here.

Everybody hurts. It's part of life. Don't miss the good stuff.