I read these types of success stories and they make me question my approach. Tough love or maintain friendship, or is it possible to do both, i.e., maintain distance, DB, GAL, move on, but when the spouse is around treat as a friend. I have read that to truly move on, friendship is not healthy (for us) and should not be considered. I guess the real question then becomes, do you truely want to move on or do you want to continue to fight and hopefully have the opportunity in the future to demonstrate who you have become. Are there cues to look at to help determine when to stop the fight? Or is this a natural process that happens; we move on and no longer want to fight?
