Here's a quote from a book I've read about a couple who were divorced 7 years. She had an affair for quite a while, came to her senses, then persued her husband for several years in hopes of reconciling the marriage. She committed adultery but she was also in alot of pain prior to it. They have a marriage many times better now because of what they went through. Here's the quote:
"The majority of people are so wounded by the betrayal that they can't imagine moving past the pain enough to allow for restoration. The hurt is profound, there's no minimizing that. However, God can do immeasurably more than you could ever ask or imagine. He can heal your heart, and he can ressurect your marriage, no matter what state it's in."
"God created marriage to be the foundation of society. The best thing we can do for ourselves, our children and our society as a whole is to preserve marriages. If you CHOOSE to give up your right to your ego and your pain and walk the road of forgiveness and grace, you are glorifying God and living according to His purpose."
"You are giving an immense gift to yourself, your spouse, and your children. If you allow God to heal your heart and bolster you with His grace and love, CHOOSING to walk the difficult path, you will never regret it."
This is your choice in what you decide to do. I believe it's wise to wait until you are truly, truly sure before you make a decision based on emotion. It may take some time to figure that out.
