It's complicated but it's mine #28

[MichelleLT]

Heh. Never heard that term before. It's very descriptive.

[kat727]

My C actually called her my faux friend. We have been friends since we were 19 & 18. I never saw what a taker she was earlier in our friendship. I haven't cut her totally out of my life but I don't seek her out either.

I do recall once when we worked together, she said I should stop dating my boyfriend because I wasn't good to him. Then she could date him and treat him better!! WTH??? Ummm, he didn't want to date her. I think she was just really envious or something because I had dated several guys by this point and she had not. She ended up marrying her first boyfriend but you know, they are still together and obviously ex and I are not.

kat

[kat727]

Wow, this forum is getting busy Not good in my humble opinion though I know most marriages don't make it and why.

Anywho, I am trying to think of someways to get my life where I want it to be. The new year is as good a reason as any. I know I spend a good deal of time with the kids and I am torn on that one. I know one or two nights a week out for a couple of hours won't hurt but I still feel like I need to keep on them and help with homework.

S14 has helped a great deal on the house and is anxious for me to paint the living room. I just hate painting but I know it is cheaper to do it myself. I suppose that is as good as place as any to get started.

I try to think back to how I felt when I was married and I do remember trying to figure out what to do with my life but it always included my family. Other than that, I think my thoughts were taken up by family obligations and schedules. Isn't it strange that I don't really remember?

kat

[kat727]

S17 had his first fender bender today. From the way he drew things out for me it doesn't appear to be his fault. It took place in the school parking lot so the police wouldn't come. He is fine, just shaken up. I felt terrible for him. thank goodness his car is a 27 year old mini-tank! No real damage, just one of the trim pieces popped out. The other car wasn't so lucky. His front fender is dented.

Anyway, both kids are fine which is the important thing. S17 didn't even want to call his Dad. He said he would tell him when he got back home. Ex had already come to pick up D11 for her flute lesson and inquired where S17 was. S14 told him about the accident and all he asked about was if the car was okay!! WTH?? This is not the kind of person I married. He has become so self-absorbed that he couldn't even both to call his son and see how he was. I am better off and sadly so are my kids.

kat

[NoCodeBlues]

Hold on a minute, Kat. I know it's brain-dead to be concerned about the car before your son, if that's all he really thinks about. But perhaps he jumped to the conclusion that if S17 was hurt then S14 would have led off the conversation with that. And since she apparently did not, then he must have automatically assumed only the car had been damaged. Not too bright and certainly insensitive, but I wouldn't make it out any worse than that.

In any event he does owe S17 a call to at least commiserate with him on his bruised emotions -- never fun to be in any sort of accident, even if no one was injured.

Just a thought.

[MichelleLT]

Glad he wasn't hurt. Those old cars sure do hold up well. I learned to drive in a 1981 Volvo Station Wagon. That thing really was a tank lol.

[kat727]

Well I was meaning I didn't marry an insensitive clod! I think S17 and I called back and forth probably 10 times in a short period of time but his Dad couldn't just call his son's number to check on him?? Sorry, maybe I am a bit more upset since he is with me most of the time and he is my first child driving.

kat

[kat727]

His is my car that I got from my grandmother a 1982 Buick Skyhawk. Really it is just a sedan and not a big old tank type car. I am glad they made them well back then.

kat

[mishka422]

Glad your son wasn't hurt. I remember my first car accident. SCARY. I rearended a Mercedes on the freeway in my 73 Superbeetle. Since the front end is hollow, it crunched almost to the steering column. The Mercedes had a small dent in the rear fender. What a mess. Of course, that was WAY before cell phones so I had to ride with the toothless tow truck driver, in my work uniform, it was Memorial Day, and my mom was at a friend's house. I called from the nasty phone in the tow truck office. ICK! I can remember the grease smell on the phone while I type this.

I learned to drive in a '77 Oldsmobile Cutlass Broughm. We lovingly called it the Tuna Boat. It was blue with blue velveteen interior....ah memories......

[kat727]

Sounds as if some fun was had in the "Tuna boat"!

Last night's game was not the sort of game that is fun for me to watch. My heart was thumping like crazy. All this energy was building in my body and I was yelling at the TV like a mad woman. I never take the other team for granted, don't sit there and quote stuff like he always makes this shot or just say without a doubt we are going to win. I try to keep the faith even when it looks dire and yes even on occasion have a hardtime sleeping if we lose. Sometimes you may even catching me shedding a few tears because I feel so bad for my team.

I know they don't know me from Adam. My dad always says it is great that you care so much about something but hon, they don't care a bit about you. I diasgree a bit because I have seen these kids when they come home after a loss and they are almost shocked that there are fans to greet them and tell them we are proud of them and we will get them next time.

Maybe this is a bit about the big picture in life. We need each other to make it a fun run and we need each other when things fall through. We have to keep the faith when things look grim and if we should happen to lose this round, we know what to work on to make it better next time. It is a good game in the end.

kat