She texted me later and asked if we could talk, I complied, but what I did to avoid any physical traps was to go to the shop and work.
She called when she left- It came a flood, Sorry I've done this, this is not me, this is very hard on me, i would suggest seperation but I totally understand why your against it, I do love you, it isn't you it's me - etc. etc..
She asked me several times what I was thinking, I stuck with I 'm confused or I am just listening to you. And she would start again. 2 things that tell me it is working on her -
1) She said " I am not running to OM, that is not what I want. My problem is that I have only been with one man for 20 yrs I allowed that to happen and I am not alright with it. I am not and did not pursue it, I told him I was sad for him, I meant I missed our friendship and I loved him as a friend, it crossed a line, your right and I haven't been able to forgive myself.
2) I don't want a divorce and i hope there is a glimmer of hope that I can get my thoughts straight before this ends. I understand you deserve better, You do, any woman would be crazy not to love you. Your sexy,smart,hardworking, successful, a great daddy - than she started crying again -
I told her to calm down I heard what she said. Be careful and concentrate on driving. We can talk again tommorrow.
Tough Love, let her work on it, keep focus and lend an ear not a hand -yet.
