WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 11

[confusedinpa]

CIPA,

I hope you had a great time with your boys. I'm sorry to hear that your W is still acting like a total B.

So when the two of you are together, do you actually talk like you did before? I remember there was the long period where you would chit chat to her about everything. How about now?

Hey Stuck - sorry to read the latest on your thread but it seems like you are being the "enlightened" man Spellfire had talked about. It's a crappy situation but I am proud of how you are handling it bro!

My WAW and I haven't chit chatted much since I confronted her when I found out the truth. We had a couple of "deep/meaningful" calls since them but nothing came out of it. We did have a couple of family meals (one dinner and one breakfast). When we did, it was very much like before I confronted her - the same bs "artifical harmony".

Over the last 3 weeks or so, she has really gotten more "pissy" - I didn't think that was possible. Last Sun I asked about getting the boys back early so we could watch football together (they asked me to do that a few days before). She said she would think about it but then didn't answer my calls or texts afterwards. Finally about 5 before the game started she sent me a text saying the boys didn't want to go. I called and asked to talk to my boys. My 7 year old said he was going shopping with her but the 3 year old was still taking his nap. Then I heard him wake up and heard him say he wanted to watch football with daddy. I asked him to put his brother on. Then she got on the phone and said they were heading out and hung up

When I got my boys on Mon, my 7 year old said she told him they couldn't go even after he said he wanted to come home to watch football with dad. I showed him her text and just said I guess she was mistaken. He looked mad as he said "she wasn't mistaken, she was lying". Unbelievable

So tonite he called her and asked if they could stay with me on weds (it's her nite). She asked why. He said it's what they wanted to do. She said ok... so it's the first week of the new year and she's giving up one of the two days she has them this week.... Whatever

Funny thing was, last week when it snowed we had made 3 snowmen (one for each of us). Then my 7 year old said he wanted to make a chubby one to be mommy (she gained almost 30 lbs last year). Then he said he will call it bulky to be a little nicer. Then my 3 year old said he was going call it bossy and grumpy.

The boys had made our three snowmen near the house and together but put the chubby/bulky/bossy/grumpy one far away near the curb. Then they threw snowballs at it and then tackled it knock it over and put it back together so they could do it again. I know I should have stopped it but it was sooooo funny and they were having so much fun. At the end, my 7 year old jumped on top of it and crushed it with a big smile.....

So I'm still looking for a job and the D train continues. At least I'm still having a great time with my boys and she is officially paying me :-)

FIDO