Moving back in

[DDogs]

1 week from move back in day....

after the weekend, Monday was quiet, I took S/D to the mall and then for dinner.. didn't get back til 930, W already in bed and we got the obligatory good night...

Today, I felt a bit uneasy, I feel like I am 2nd guessing myself, about the pics and weekend run, although I know I've done the right thing. Made dinner, W comes home and is back to the 1 or 2 word answers. I ask how her day was and W tells me it was a crazy day without details.. I don't push and invite her to sit for dinner.

Afterwards, on the patio, I tell her that my schedule changed and that the MC appt was still on for tomorrow night. W says ok.. I ask how she's feeling, W replies she's ok but tired and she'll talk more in session tomorrow.... I ask if there's anything she needs to say, she say no...I don't push further but comment that she looks tired and hope she feels better.

Here is where I am unsure if I back slid or not... As she is settling in the guest room for the night, I ask if I could sit and talk for a minute.

(I read from another post about how Retrovauille was brought up into conversation, liked it and I wanted to put it out there)

I told W that there is a program out there specifically designed for couples exactly like us,,, people with marriages in crisis from all forms of unhealthy behaviors, marriages in the end stage of D, and even as a requirement in some places in order to finalize a D. Retroauville. And that I think it might help us.

I told her it was not an encounter group, retreat but a weekend designed for personal and couple growth specifically for couples like us, there are no guarantees but it has shown to be successful in helping couples. I asked W to think about it. There was a pause, and W looks at me and quietly asks, "what do you want me to say?"

I reply, "I know what I want you to say but I'd like you think about it, maybe google it and see."

She nods and says nothing. I end the conversation there and leave.

I'm not certain if that was pursuing.. I wanted her to begin thinking about it before MC tomorrow, but don't know if by mentioning it, that it was pushing her away....I'm trying to be patient, wait, continue my DB and watch.....It's like watching grass grow,,, I understand these things can take a long time and I got clobbered by 2x4's last time I mentioned my impatience...I'm venting here rather than say/do something foolish in front of the W,,,because although I understand it is a slow process and takes time, that doesn't make it any less painful..