Looking for Advice

[gutwrenching]

Thanks Greek. You are right, there was ZERO expectation, this is a really tough time for her right now and I want to be supportive. This is a chance to show off the new/improved me at a time where it might also help her cope.

Copy - don't follow up with anything else. I've planted enough seeds that she knows she has support. I stopped by to see her today at work (which I never do since getting smart about how to handle this) and offered any help and told her the truth I was checking up on her well being. She actually later called me and asked if I would go pick up her and 3 other co-workers lunch. SHOCK, again, she asked for help again.

I let her know I got the kids handled, I got dinner handled, let her know how proud I was of how she was handling the situation, let her know she has a shoulder to lean on and a hot bubble bath with her name on it whenever she can come home.

Oh yes, and I delivered her wedding band to work today. When she left this morning and gave me a hug she looked at her bare ring finger and told me she couldn't find her plain wedding band and couldn't wear the other one right now because it was cutting into her finger, but that she wanted to find the band. So I found it and brought it to her, and she promptly put it on.

Good to hear from you again, it is greatly appreciated/valued.