Looking for some more help.

[gutwrenching]

Hopefully you did not bring up the cell phone. You need proof. I initially brought up my suspicion of wife's EA too early, before I had proof (I only had the warning signs). W denied it and tried to throw me off track. Talked about how good friends they were and said she would share their e-mails with me. Then came about 1 planted e-mail a day to her account that she would show me.

The second confrontation went much better. Had proof of text messages with the words I love you going back and forth and more, I had proof from phone records of number of texts and phone calls daily. She initially started denying it and I used the phrase I read on someone else's sitch with "stop, I know all about you and OM, I think at a minimum I deserve the truth." She then immediately caved and admitted to EA. I never showed her any of the proof, just spouted it off the top of my head and quoted some of their texts including one that I would never be able to just come up with if I hadn't read it.

All confronting without proof could do is make them be more secretive. Luckily for me, that wasn't the case. She was careless and I finally got proof and then could draw a boundary which is the only hope of ever getting it to stop (and even that might not do it).

Keep the faith, keep a positive attitude. Don't give up. I'm not an expert by any stretch, I've screwed up more times than I can count and I rely on expert help. My sitch is far, far from a positive ending, but I can say things are a little better. not much, but a little. I can only offer my experience with bringing up an A, having done it the wrong way and the right way and seeing the difference.