Thought I would share. The below link is more pertinet to my sitch but there is a "coping strategies" within the link that is pretty positve.

http://divorcesupport.about.com/od/theothermanotherwoman/p/othermanwoman.htm

Me41 W43
M9 T13
S8 D6
Bomb 1/4/08
EA Discovery 7/10/08
S 6/13/09
2nd EA/PA Discovery 7/15/09 (same guy)
D-Day 3/8/10