I make time for both my D's seperately. We don't always do anything in particular, but it gives them and me a chance to talk about whatever is on the menu lately.
My D14 is esp fond of leaving me notes (or texting or emails) about stuff that's going on with her. Too often they are "bombs" and she wants me to respond in kind (as opposed to a face to face). I usually do both, written first, then talk.
Whatever way works for her and you.
Counseling can be good, depends on the kid. My D17 would shut down like NORAD on a red alert.
Your intent will shine through to both you kids. That means so much (I have it on good authority )
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