Partner left after 9 yrs - 18months on, reunited !

[kat727]

Silly me, huh? His first affair lasted 2 years, right after we got married. Said he was lonely but would never hurt me like that again. Right.

Maybe that is part of the reason I hung in there, knowing he had been in a long term affair before but stayed with me, that he would do it again. Sounds like I am an idiot when I say it that way. lol

kat

[MichelleLT]

No, you just were committed to your M, your kids, your H. That's a good quality honey.

You are allowed to be silly in other ways though.

[kat727]

Thanks Michelle! Hey Ali, sent you a message and gave you a tip. Hope it helps.

kat

[AliSuddenly]

Thanks Kat.. and yes dont beat yourself up for decisions taken in good faith, if you had stayed together, you wouldnt be kicking yourself now.

Had a fantastic appointment with the doctor. He got my dilemma (age, early menopause on mothers side) is going to run tests as a precaution and said he would put down that we had been trying for over a year so we tick all the boxes in case we need to be referred to the fertility clinic. I was so pleased!! You get free fertility help (inc one free IVF I think) in the UK, but you have to have been trying for ages. So, we have backup if we need it.

I spoke to bf about the phonebill, just it was funny to see the calls, he just said he was sorry, smiled and kissed me. No drama!

[kat727]

Hope the info I gave helps. If not we can look at the tempature side of it.

Thanks for your kindness. kat

[mishka422]

WOW! Free fertility treatments? Holy cow!!!!!!!!! They run at up to $20,000 per treatment here depending on the method used. That is marvelous. There is a little something to be said for social medicine. I'd be happy to just see a regular doctor once a year if I didn't have to pay through the nose for it. One visit to my general practitioner is a $125 office visit plus lab costs ranging from $100-300 depending on what needs to be run. CRAZY!

[AliSuddenly]

Gosh Mish, thats mental! $20,000!? And $300 a test!? Go Obama though hey, he's trying to change all that. My doctor is running thyroid and kidney liver, FSH (hormones), full bloods and std tests...and referred bf to the hospital for a sperm count (oh dear, better warn him later!!) all free of course and I didnt even ask for it!

Then we can see the fertility consultants free and I am sure you can go into hospital for some medical tests/intervention free on the NHS, but if that fails, you have to pay (£10-15k then). Its good to be British! Although, I would prefer to be Scandinavian because they get even better welfare benefits there I believe.

[mishka422]

It really is crazy. Of course, if we go to social med it still won't cover 'unnecessary' procedures. Fertility is not necessary so it won't be covered. Heck, most regular insurance doesn't cover birth control but they cover Viagra! Go figure. They'll help men get it up, but won't help women deal with the consequences of it.

[MichelleLT]

Ya know, I was thinking similar things when I was reading Ali's post!

Most people I know who live in areas with socialized medicine complain about the number of things that aren't covered and how long it takes to get treatment. I have a friend who flies his wife to the US about 4-5 times a year for medical treatment because Holland has a 9 month waiting list for her treatments. He's pissed that we're changing the insurance system cuz now he's worried he might have to find someplace else to get her care.

My friend's uncle had to wait 6 months to have a surgery because it wasn't life threatening. So he was off work for 6 months, waiting.

But you can get fertility treatments so that the population can continue to go up so the waiting lists for care get longer. Ain't that irony? LMAO

My regular insurance only covered my birth control at the normal prescription rate. So when I had a break in insurance I went to Planned Parenthood and they gave me a 1 yr supply for free. Thank goodness for clinics!

[AliSuddenly]

Oh ha! Well its free medicine for all (not dental/opticians anymore, but used to be) and that includes all ops.. yes, there are waiting lists, but we are free to also take out private health care insurance alongside NHS (lots of companies offer it as a benefit in good jobs) and then you can use the NHS for regular stuff and be seen the next day by a private hospital if you need to or want to avoid the NHS queues. I dont have it, but from my Dads experience, private healthcare IS better, but expensive of course. So great if you can afford it of course, like the US. BUT.. meanwhile, 62+ million people get 24 hour free care !