MHL, I not know how you did it...I would have been all emotion. Good call with the L approach. My W has been driving my lawyer and I nuts...seriously, who gets dumped by their own L.
When I spoke with the kids about the D I told them we were still going to be the best family in the world, that mom and dad loved them, and that mom and dad still loved each other. They are young so I think this helped provide some comfort.