I am so glad that I went to an IC appointment before xmas. If I had kept with my original stand with xmas plans and H's bday plans, I am positive our current situation would have been totally different and we would have been pushed further apart than together.
Hi Maple, happy New Year!
Can you please clarify the above statement? I'm confused; does this mean you backed away from this:
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But so far... MC - H has agreed to MC (to start in january)
Transparency - I have passwords to email, fb, access to phone (unfortunately no call/bill details as it is provided by his work). When H returns to work in jan, he has to let me know his schedule, where he is working and that he needs to call me before he leaves at the end of the day.
No contact with OW - I asked how he will respond if OW contacts him or if they run into each other at work. As I said before I told him I wanted him to say “it is inappropriate for us to communicate. I am committed to my family, marriage and wife.” and I want to know if she does contact or if he sees her at work. I just put that out there eventhough I know there is a good chance he won't tell me.
STD/HIV tests - I said I don't know what you did for b/c or protection and I don't want to know, but you need to get tested and I need a letter or call from doc with results before we resume ML. (All my test results came back negative.)
Puppy
MC/transparency/No contact with OW/STD tests are ALL STILL PART OF THE PLAN.
As for the first paragraph... My original stand for the holidays was based on H and I being separated (in house) - I was pushing H to move out and I was talking to L and looking into a legal separation agreement and starting to make plans on how to share the time with the kids. Now, I consider us together as a couple and working on our M - we spent the holidays as a family sometimes it was a little forced but we are together. Does that make sense????
