I think one common thread in my XH, Ali's bf, and K's H is that they are non-confrontational.
I found with my XH, the rare times he would talk to me I had to be VERY quiet and wait. He needed a lot of space and time to talk. He needed to feel safe.
Getting him drunk also worked lol.
Non-confrontational combined with what Ali says about it being further in the past I think results in a lot of difficulty talking about it.
Was your communication ever Really good? What was different then? Are there things you could do now to make him feel safer about opening up?
Just my random musings.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
