Update, last night baby had a croup cough and was really sick, I left a card game I was at immediately to take care of him.(something that I had never done in the past) she always said she could handle situations in the past, but I know she would have always appreciated help.
text me this morning that #1 baby slept through the night, #2 she will start moving to the guest house on thurs. (she has c appt. tonite and is going to stay at her moms)she is o.k with it and she just doesn't want to fight. and thanking me for helping last nite. #3 text about s and d #4 what time am I coming to the house. finally i write back "enough please"
I am thinking about writing a short note and leaving it in the house where she will be living. I want to say something like today we are together but we are heading in seperate directions. I think we just need to let go so we can get what we are after. and not to think of moving out of the house as a punishment, but rather an opportunity to live in a place without stress so that she can really focus on what she needs in life. thoughts? (she has been complaining that she doesn't have enought time/energy to work on herself because she works all day, takes care of kids and then is too tired)
About a month ago she did live in the guest house for one week and then went out with her girlfriend on fri. overnite. She called in the morning and I could tell she had been up all nite crying. She was supposed to be home at 7 am to take the kids because I had a weekend fishing trip planned with my friend. She kept calling and saying that she was still working on us and trying to figure some things out. She finally gets home at 10 am and says that she has hope 4 us and we share a nice moment and I think that we are on the road to reconcile. She asked me if I can stay home from the trip and I tell her that there is only one other friend going and that he is already driving 3 hrs up to the resort. I said I want to stay, but I just don't know how I could ditch out. I said I will go, and come back asap in the morning. I get home the next morning and all of a sudden she no longer has any hopeful feelings. I wonder if this could have just been a reaction to what other people were saying to her and she just felt pressured. (her mom, sister, and friends all told her she is making a mistake) Anyone have thoughts on this?
