hey, I think your partly putting words in exh's mouth.

He would probably love to have an opportunity for unsupervised time, and there was his chance. I think that was totally expected. and you should bring it up that that is the reason! because if you make it about it being last minute, then what's he gonna say about when you have something planned that he finds out about.

don't be sick about this, there is NOTHING wrong with you going out for a bit. now, if you were nursing and went out all night drinking...that's another story.

there is also nothing wrong with an 18 year old watching...unless she has party problems, or you can't trust her not to have a boyfriend over, or something that would cause her to be distracted from babysitting.

so quit feeling guilty. MAKE this about his unsupervised visits...this is a COURT DECISION, not yours,

If you are okay with him having unsupervised when the courts make that decision...then you can also say, I'm sure you will do a great job watching her when the courts change their ruling after your able to show them your progress.

Me 33 H 34 S9 S3
M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs)
EA/PA 1/2006
DB 5/2006
H wants D 6/2006
H wants ME 8/2006
H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006
H erased OW off phone! 2/2007

"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."