WAW Using God

[pigskin]

Yep, you are right Greek. I was definitely wobbly on getting together with any women, especially anyone I have been attracted to. I did mention to my priest that one of the things that makes the situation difficult is getting attention from other women that should be coming from my wife.

Journaling update:

Today I found out W just linked to the OM on a professional networking site. She stopped over for some things and I called her out on it, saying that maybe I need to be more clear on what constitutes "no contact".

She was irritated that I would consider the link inappropriate, as she is job hunting. I told her anything that acknowledges that the man even exists is inappropriate, since she is in an affair with him. She corrected me by saying she "HAD" an affair with him, past tense.

To clarify I told her anything, from facebook friending to cell phone entries needs to be gone. She said she wasn't willing to drop everything. So I told her that my agreement to swap out to her apartment on weekends is now over. She said, "OK".

I told her if she is not going to drop all contact then I don't want our finances going into the apartment. She said I don't have a choice since I won't let her stay at the house. I told her to split the finances. She said she'd have to get a lawyer, and I told her to do what she needed to do.

I don't think I was over the line here. I don't care if the guy has the best business contacts on the planet, you don't link to him using the excuse that it could help in your job search.