Sandy, I was sleeping when you "moved". Literally, LOL!!! Glad things are going well...
I want a coffee, please!!!! K
Hey K,
Cream & Sugar?
M:47 M:18 D16, S19 1st S 1/08-5/08 Reconciled/May 7, 2008 Left again Nov 9, 2009 I Filed: Nov 17, 2009 Final: April 14, 2010 EX walked away from kids too
You have to be setting some sort of all time DivorceBusting record for fastest move from piecing to separated to surviving to re-marriage.
The "ladies" that have seen his pics understand why! LoL Yes, he's easy on the eyes!
*whistle*
But, Sandycay is a SuperFox, so he had better keep himself humbled, and in check!
Yea, what she said! LOL now to get the message to him subliminally!
M:47 M:18 D16, S19 1st S 1/08-5/08 Reconciled/May 7, 2008 Left again Nov 9, 2009 I Filed: Nov 17, 2009 Final: April 14, 2010 EX walked away from kids too
Wow - A lady with a boat! Do you have a pool table, foosball, dirt bikes, jet skis and a hot rod?
Just kidding you on the re-marriage. The kids have to give their approval, but a fire fighter is always cool for kids. For me, a lot of ladies my age have grown kids and dont want to go through with kids again. But the latest one I have met has kids the same age, gender and racial mix as my kids. Funny thing also...my son was on the first date with me and she seemed to like him. That was different and not planned.
Well he does have younger kids than me Kerry which is a consideration. They are 6, 8, and lord help us we both have 13 year old daughters... which can be really good or really bad. My son is 15 but he gets along with kids (volunteers in the children's ministries) so I don't think that will be a problem.
We will see... but one thing is foh soh.... if the kids don't like him... he's out! But he is very active with his own and seems to have a kid friendly personality so I'm not to worried about it.
M:47 M:18 D16, S19 1st S 1/08-5/08 Reconciled/May 7, 2008 Left again Nov 9, 2009 I Filed: Nov 17, 2009 Final: April 14, 2010 EX walked away from kids too
STBXH ended up screaming at me on the phone on Wed. I never engaged and tried to calm/diffuse the situation. To no avail so I finally said I'm going to hang up because you are screaming at me. He screams''' No I'll hang up first"... Whatever
He was screaming because he was suppose to give me the whole amount of money he owes me on the 1st (his decision) Well he then discovered he can't transfer the whole amount at a time so he send a text saying he'll send it over the next 5 days. Well I got one deposit then nothing. I needed to pay the mortg and bills and need to feed the kids... so I called him on Wed. and he flipped a lid.... I'm pressuring him.. it's gonna be a long 5 years (how long he is paying support) blah blah blah... so I told him that It was not me that decided to pay me all at once and that all he needed to do was communicate if he was having money troubles.
He told me that he has a million things to do and it's about his job so if the kids I want him to keep that I better stop pressuring him.... seriously one phone call and I did not say "where the F is my money". I mean he had "forgotten" once.. so I was just checking.
After, all this find out our health insurance has been cancelled... fun times!
THEN the big one I got today via text:
H; Can you please stop with the seperation proceedings for a short while. Everytime you do something like the insurance... it opens more questions and more that I'm having to put out. Please....please....give me a break from this. Freakin money flows out of my pocket. I know you're not doing it on purpose, but I need to take a breath. Every day is another financial brush fire.
How the heck to I respond to that? The insurance he is talking about is the car. I put my car and my jewlery and the house on my policy... since I called the insurance co. and because he was not living in the home..he was in violation of the contract.... which made me not be fully covered... i.e...if I had borrowed someone's car and wrecked...Not covered... so I am paying my own. So I don't know why that's effected him.... dont' know how to respond!
M:47 M:18 D16, S19 1st S 1/08-5/08 Reconciled/May 7, 2008 Left again Nov 9, 2009 I Filed: Nov 17, 2009 Final: April 14, 2010 EX walked away from kids too
(((((sandy))))) How about no response? Just do what needs to be done.
Here, I don't have any choice, though I don't know what would happen if I didn't have a job. My employer is supposed to take CS straight from my paycheck and send it to the state, who sends it to XW. Of course, this hasn't happened yet, so I don't know how it will work!
Just remember... Business Deal from your side. Do it in a professional manner and it may indirectly cause him to work together with you in a more professional manner.
Phone conversations with him are not working so try to avoid those for now.
Emails should work and are something easily reviewed back on in a misunderstanding. Make the issues, ramifications and soluitons very clear. Dont inject any emotional points. Use "I" statements more than "you" statements.
My employer is supposed to take CS straight from my paycheck and send it to the state, who sends it to XW.
I know in my state that they will take out some money for themselves when it is done this way. Kind of like working with the mafia. Therefore, I just have my bank setup to do an auto transfer to my XW's account at the first of each month.
Oh, yeah, the state takes a couple of bucks each time. XW and I would be perfectly content if I paid directly to her. But I can't risk that. In the state's eyes, anything that doesn't go through them might not count if there was ever an issue. If she got mad, or if for some reason someone else was in charge of my stuff for a while, they could say that I owed it all! So, I will do it their way!
