Keep Your Hands Offa My Mojo

[Kettricken]

It's not your concern. Whoa, there, cowboy. Let me explain.

Of course it is your concern, in that whatever impacts themselves impacts you, and naturally being a wonderful dad you want to lessen the impact as much as possible. Spin it how you want, doubtless they do and are going to feel rejected by Her.

It's not your concern in that you can't do a blessed thing about it. No, really. You can't. You, the father, can't soften the blow of ... let's call it insufficient engagement, to be generous ... on the part of the mother. If you push her on it, likely it will just get added on to the big pile of things to be power-struggley about.

As far as I can imagine, all you can do is (1) Be There, (2) reassure Themselves that you will continue to Be There, and (3) give them as much exposure as possible to nurturing extended family (esp. female members, perhaps) as geographically possible.

A friend on my other site talks a lot about the near-suicidal perils of attempting to assume responsibility in areas where you can muster no authority. I think it's sage advice.