Couldn't see the lawyer today so I made my way to Child Support division to let them know what has happened recently...
Because everything has been held up with the lack of birth certificate for my oldest, she said there wasn't anything they could really do...
The state doesn't have "emergency child support"...
After some consideration, she asked her supervisor if they could use my marriage license until the birth certificate comes in - Yep we can...
So I will drop that off tomorrow and we go from there...
I found out that the money will be pulled directly from his check before he is even paid so no need to worry about him whining that he doesn't have the money this month...
It will also go back to the day he walked out...
She asked if I kept a record of what he has given me - I had to chuckle since he doesn't give me anything...
She asked me how I was getting money before and I explained "the race to the bank" on payday...
That was her turn to chuckle...
She then let me know they are there to help turn this around for me.
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
I've got to say.... I don't like that here I don't have any choice, I get to have CS taken from my check, give the state a couple dollars to process it, and have them send it to XW. (At least that's how it is supposed to work, it hasn't actually happened yet!) That said, when I read about things like this.... well, I guess the bad apples do spoil it for everyone else, but it seems better than the alternative.
People kept telling me FL doesn't play when it come to child support so I am guessing this is what they mean.
Because my H works for a prominent company as well as being retired military, he has no escape.
This was never where I wanted to be and it took me a very long time, a lot of soul-searching and numerous prayers to get to this place.
On a daily basis I doubt myself, I question myself, I feel suffocating guilt all day, everyday and there is still that stupid piece inside of me that is screaming at me "Do you know what he is going to do when he finds out you did this?"
Yes, I will admit it, I still care how he is going to react however I push through that because it shouldn't matter to me...
He left, he cheated, he did all this - Not me...I honored God, my husband, our vows and myself...
I was willing to do the work to repair the damage I didn't even know about because my H didn't have the balls to come to me before throwing it all away.
So if he is a little uncomfortable on a monthly basis that is the price he gets to pay for his "newfound freedom", and eventually I will be able to look forward to a day with no guilt.
(((Hugs)))
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
Couldn't see the lawyer today so I made my way to Child Support division to let them know what has happened recently...
Because everything has been held up with the lack of birth certificate for my oldest, she said there wasn't anything they could really do...
The state doesn't have "emergency child support"...
After some consideration, she asked her supervisor if they could use my marriage license until the birth certificate comes in - Yep we can...
So I will drop that off tomorrow and we go from there...
I found out that the money will be pulled directly from his check before he is even paid so no need to worry about him whining that he doesn't have the money this month...
It will also go back to the day he walked out...
She asked if I kept a record of what he has given me - I had to chuckle since he doesn't give me anything...
She asked me how I was getting money before and I explained "the race to the bank" on payday...
That was her turn to chuckle...
She then let me know they are there to help turn this around for me.
I am sorry I have not been here for the past month. I see that I have missed a lot. I wish you the best. My W does too. She asked me about you last night; that is what prompted me to come hear today. You are doing so well.
On a daily basis I doubt myself, I question myself, I feel suffocating guilt all day, everyday and there is still that stupid piece inside of me that is screaming at me "Do you know what he is going to do when he finds out you did this?"
Yes, I will admit it, I still care how he is going to react however I push through that because it shouldn't matter to me...
He left, he cheated, he did all this - Not me...I honored God, my husband, our vows and myself...
I was willing to do the work to repair the damage I didn't even know about because my H didn't have the balls to come to me before throwing it all away.
So if he is a little uncomfortable on a monthly basis that is the price he gets to pay for his "newfound freedom", and eventually I will be able to look forward to a day with no guilt.
It is always nice to see you and I am hoping and praying for nothing but the best for you and your wife. I think of you often and always smile to know that no news is good news.
Please don't apologize ever - You are working on your marriage and making it better for you and your wife - No one least of all me would fault you for not being here on a daily basis.
(((Hugs to you and your wife))))
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
I have to tell you - Today has been a rather good day for me...
I feel about 50lbs lighter emotionally...
I haven't done much work today but that is ok...
I have smiled almost all day...
Very hard to picture that because if you know me IRL, you know I am not a smiley type of person...
Princess of Darkness is what my family has always called me...
Not today...
The sunrise was beautiful, my coffee was perfect, it is bitterly cold (ie: 10 degrees when I left for work this am) up here as I am sure you are down there and still nothing is detering me from moving along at my pace...
I have vowed to get back in touch with some of my old girl-friends and also make some new friends...
I have vowed to laugh more and cry less...
I am so - I can't describe it however I could almost skip...
Yes - I am for the first time (write it down) speechless.
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
I am such a dork today 