Silly is right....RUN, don't walk, away from marriage with him, if you are considering that. IMHO, there is no moral difference between sex with a "real girl" and fantasizing and masturbating with porn. This situation will require serious work and counseling before it will begin to resemble anything healthy.
Porn is an addiction. In my case, I thought, due to religious angst on both our parts, that sex would improve with my H after marriage, but unfortunately I was sorely mistaken. I didn't learn about his porn addiction until about 3 years later, and still I didn't draw a line in the sand over it for many years. Being passed over sexually for porn felt no different to me as a wife, than if he was having a full blown affair. It nearly distroyed our marriage.
Also very typical for the porn addict...your BF has already shown that he has difficulty relating intimately with you during "real" sex, where there are another person's feelings and desires to consider. Always from behind....seriously?? All he knows to expect is how to act out porn scenarios, and that's not REAL sex. Face it, if he is never "in the mood" now, it is not going to get any better.
I'm sorry, I know this hurts. I'm sure DQ and others with chime in as this topic has been discussed here before.
