Bestrong, it is definitely so hard being in limbo...it feels as if life is incomplete.
Is your goal to be NC?? It sounds like that will not be too hard if you continue to feel angry or even hopeless.
I am so happy to hear you had fun with your friends and they are supporting you! Keep posting!
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
Hi newmama, yes NC is the goal - I can't deal with him any longer - I had put my hopes up in Oct / Nov - we got on so well and since the mortgage fight I just lost any hope of any R ever - and since he admitted the "tenant" story to be a lie too - he says he lied so I wouldn't think he left me for another woman because other women had nothing to do with our separation - I told him if I find out in the future that there was another woman before her I don't know what I will do - he is putting me through living hell for these past 8 months - I don't know if he is realizing that.
I will continue posting, I promise - I am just so sad - I was never so heartbroken in my life, ever...
P17, a bit better - the money came in today so that part is sorted.I am now dealing with the standing order from the bank. We haven't spoken since he left.His birthday was on the 3rd and I sent him a text but no reply - he is pissed I think because I contacted the co-worker.
P17, a bit better - the money came in today so that part is sorted.I am now dealing with the standing order from the bank.
Stage 1 out of the way then ... now you have some breathing room?
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We haven't spoken since he left.His birthday was on the 3rd and I sent him a text but no reply - he is pissed I think because I contacted the co-worker.
Given the sitch, why did you send him a text wishing him a happy birthday?
Me 36, W 34 | D 8 | M 3.5y Sep 2Aug09 | Left 6Sep09 | OM in 10Oct09 | NC 17Nov09 | Gave up caring - Jan 2010
"Have integrity. Do what is right, not what is expedient." "Delay is the antidote for anger"
Why I texted him - I don't know. That was the last time anyway.
I will email him today to get an agreement from him on the standing order and the mortgage and that's it then I suppose. My youngest communion is in the middle of May and I will stay away from him until then as far away as posssible.
BS, Glad you are sorted financially now. Tick 1 in the box.
Originally Posted By: bestraongforyoi
Why I texted him - I don't know. That was the last time anyway.
I will email him today to get an agreement from him on the standing order and the mortgage and that's it then I suppose. My youngest communion is in the middle of May and I will stay away from him until then as far away as posssible.
Remember staying away takes two ... and I very much doubt he will stay away from you. You need to be strong and determined in this. It's very very tough. Do not underestimate how much willpower you will need.
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Me 36, W 34 | D 8 | M 3.5y Sep 2Aug09 | Left 6Sep09 | OM in 10Oct09 | NC 17Nov09 | Gave up caring - Jan 2010
"Have integrity. Do what is right, not what is expedient." "Delay is the antidote for anger"
