Call a DB counselor. Seriously. First by yourself, then, depending on the discussion with the DB counselor, together.
Dia,
God knows, I respect your opinion, and you've certainly been more successful than me at DB'ing, but the problem I see is the greatest C in the world can't help someone who doesn't want help. And unless and until that issue changes, I don't see how C'ing is going to help.
And just like Thinker, I am fast with this same problem. But, in the end, it's HER problem that I cannot fix for her.
