I did FB you. Just a quick little note really. I get that all of this hurts, I am just suggesting maybe to stop looking for reasons to hurt. Ask him if he wants to keep the photo and if he does just ask that he put it away, if he doesn't want it, toss it.

I just want you to stop hurting. Life is hard enough without bringing extra trouble to the table. Ok, maybe since I got on to your thread a tad later in the game I didn't get that he snuck out to call her. However, I think it is great that he lets you check his phone but don't look past the last day or so? That is where the hurt comes.

My ex's first affair was before cell phones and I was a flight attendant so I was gone a lot. Perfect storm I know. We never dealt with a lot of those issues and I think they festered and bam!! Who knows he may have been cheating all along but why hurt myself more trying to find out? It is over and I am working on being a healthy, whole person so that I may be fortuanate enough to receive the love I give.

hugs, kat

Me-53(and learning!)
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