Yo tridoc - I am not sure how I missed your thread earlier but your initial post made the hair on my head stand up because it was so similar to my situation. I am not a doctor but was consumed with my career and other hobbies and also neglected my marraige (also have 4 kids to chase around).

My W did the same thing as yours except she moved out of the bedroom, not me (she has been out of bedroom for 7 months). She had an EA. Blames me for it and wants to 'prove' that she is ending the M because it has 'always been bad' and that OM has nothing to do with it. She doesn't want to work on M at all.

I also exposed her the same way you did - to a few close friends and family and she resented it terribly, and to this day says if I didn't expose her maybe we could have worked on it.

I did a complete 180 - turned to God, read every relationship book I could find, tried to be 'nice' etc etc. I have come out a much better person on the other end of this turmoil, so that is the silver lining even if M doesn't survive.


Anyway - we are following the same road I think. Your W needs to see reality at some point and make a final choice.

ME/XW:47
S21, D19, S15, S14
M:21 T:26
W moved 6/10 I filed 7/10 D final 4/12 remarried 8/12
W wants to R 12/10 and 4/11 but I decline