They don't want to lie to us that they CAN try and they don't want to make a decision.
You are right about this.
My w has exclaimed to me several times "I AM trying".
If I point out to her that she is not DOING anything, and that when we were in MC she refused to discuss any issue in detail, and did not do any of the exercises the MC's gave us, and refused to participate in the retrouvaille "Dialoging", and has not read a single R book or made any active steps to improve our R, then she responds "But you just don't understand how HARD this is for me"
It does seem to me that she (knowingly or unknowingly) intends to "Try" long enough and ineffectively enough that eventually I give up and file, enabling her to leave the m free of guilt and able to blame me for ending it.
Last edited by Thinker; 01/05/1005:22 PM.
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
