Looking for some more help.

[TrentC]

If anyone could give me any quick advice I would be very appreciative.

Do not bring up the R. Let her do it. When she discusses the problems she sees, validate her feelings without necessarily agreeing with her conclusions.

If she attempts to read your mind ("I know you aren't likely to change"), gently point out that she can't read your mind and that you know your feelings on the issue.

Do not attempt to tell her how much she means to you, how you can't live without her, etc. This will not work, because it will make you look clingy and desperate and unattractive, and will push her away.

If she asks for a D, tell her that you are willing to work on the R if she is; but if she wants to file, you won't stand in her way.

Read Divorce Remedy. Time is your friend; the longer you can draw out the march towards a D, the more time you have to make changes in yourself.