I have a simple question. Did he say he was moving home or he was moving home to work on the M?
That will determine a whole bunch of things.
As far as housework, living your life, cooking, etc… I would just keep doing what you were doing while he was gone. He is a grown man, at least in a linear sense, and he can do his own laundry, keep his area clean (or not), and cook for himself.
No you do not have to be totally horrible and tease him by cooking for yourself only, but I would not go out of my way to try to make him comfortable.
You now have a live in. It is very hard especially if he is still set on not being married.
I won’t say much about confronting the OW. I did it a time or three. Finally learned that lesson with numbers four and five. But it doesn’t really make it go away. If it has ended with her, there is now the possibility of another one. Just prepare yourself for any possibility.
You have to continue on YOUR path right now. Let him travel his. You can be cordial if it works for you, silent if he spews. What ever is going to serve you and your journey the best. Until he wakes up, and comes to you, that is all you can do.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
