M8, I think you are doing an amazing job. You have gotten work and are getting help. Those are huge turn arounds. Apparently, your wife has notices the new energy that you have. You are regaining your power. That is both good for you and disruptive to her system.
It sounds like she is interested in counseling for some reason. It sounds like she seeks justification for her behavior. The more you are around her, the more opportunity you have to disrupt her belief system she has constructed. Do not tell her you have changed. Continue to show change.
You mentioned boundries in a previous post. I am not the boundry guru, but have you articulated, for yourself, the boundries you would like to set?
