Calling out the Piecers

[dday101798]

Thanks all.

Puppy, understood, loud and clear, thanks for the reminder. I was sounding off here, and venting, nothing of any sort of that transpired to her. This is why I re-booked my psych visits starting today. My defenses are on overload, not that I'm getting defensive with her, far from it, but I'm just over analyzing everything with that voice in the back of my head saying, watch it, this might hurt. Ya know?

That said and to respond to Mr Gno, I think it may be both things. I certainly think she expected me to turn to puddy and instantly snap into "yes, dear" mode after the night together and is freaking because that didn't happen. I also think she may freaking out as well to the fact that although I didn't say anything about it, she could tell that when we were trying to ML again, thoughts of her and OM starting bouncing around and prohibited it. So maybe that plays a part?

Then, there's this, and we have spoken openly of it as it's an open conflict between (x)W and my cousin. It just really seems that not only has my cousin tried to take on that 'motherly role' with me, she's also in some way reliving the security factor of her H through me? I mean she went from having her H around to take care of everything in the house, much like I do, "hey this outlet is broken, be right back" and poof no more broken outlet. This would greatly explain the blow-up at Christmas and my cousin's end reason being because she misses her H? She has since taken down the "to do list" as well, although all the practical things there in were done anyway.

And in the same right I think that may also play onto (x)W's clinginess. She sees that my cousin is getting the 'yes dear, I'll get this done for youright now' treatment she hap-hazzardly threw to the wayside and wants it back.

(x)W did call me on the way home from work and we touched on that a bit. She did calm down. But was still freaking out about having to go to the bank and store and all. All I could say was that was sorry, but this week has been booked, and I need to take care of it. She wasn't too happy about it, but all I could come up with was if her father had asked her to do something for him, wouldn't he be upset with her if she just dropped everything to be with me? Surely he would.

(x)W's new rationale was she was going to get an apartment and I AM to move in immediately so we can live seperately of all the outside interference. I had to say over and over, I can't do that, I have responsibilities to take care of, and everybody needs an adjustment period. She's still not happy with that. I did throw the idea out there tho that it would be nice if she got a place be it our house or apartment that instead of bringing the kids out to now my cramped place, I stay with them on "my" weekends, she liked that.

Anyway, in the end, I took care of everyting I promissed my cousin I would and then some. All the while (x)W was calling/messaging constantly about where a bank branch was to cash the check but didn't know how she'd get the kids dinner. By this time, I was done, so I compromised and said, I'm done with my work, be there in 25 minutes and all was well. We missed the bank, but got the boys dinner and then (x)W and I went out for a sandwich and some time together.

We talked for a while and everything is cool. We both want this work. (x)W even pitched the idea of going to MC to work out the lingering D issues.

So, everything seems a bit better today. I called (x)W this morning, versus texting, and she was happy. She practically melted when I told her to have a great day.