I think it was Mach who talked about installing a filter from the brain to the mouth.
We all have to do that. That filter, is supposed to keep anything from coming out that should not. To prevent you from saying something you can’t take back later.
As your changes are for you and you alone, your H will begin to recognize them, without you saying a word. People say that, but believe me, it really is true.
What you are hearing right now is script. Yes it hurts. Very deeply. But it is normal for the MLCer.
As far as OW, you can’t do anything about it. The more you try to break it up, the more you even worry about when it might end, the nuttier it will make YOU. Only your H or her can end that R. It is the only way. Ending it does not make MLC go faster, it does not make reconciliation happen quicker.
You can do this but you can’t rush any of it. Listen to Grace. She is spot on.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
