the guy that I thought she was close with -- I looked at the phone bill and there are hundreds and hundreds of texts...
I'm really sorry for what is happening. Most of them who bail have someone waiting for them.
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she said she was glad because now she doesn't have to hide it, that he is "just a friend" actually her "best friend" now...
Don't buy it. From here on out mention nothing about this loser to her. She will defend him and you will push her further away from you and closer to him. If/when you address this keep it all about HER not him, he is nothing more than a symptom.
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ugly conversations last night, all the same about how I NEVER respected, loved, or cared for her in the 10 years that we were together, never wanted to be with the boys, never never never...
Why of course.....She needs some justification for her poor choices. It is up to you to listen to what she says and determine if it is valid or not. Sift through the trash so to speak.
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reaching rock bottom soon I imagine.
Not a chance.
This is going to take some time my friend. Lots of it.
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what next?
You have to live in the moment and take it one day at a time. This will throw your emotions up, down and all around. You need to stay even keeled.
First you realize you have no control over her, so to focus on all her crazy confusing antics will serve no purpose.
You let her go completely and you don't do it in an "F you" type of way. Be above all this bullshitt. You read, you learn, you grow, you take action and make positive changes. Focus on you and your children, THEY NEED YOU RIGHT NOW.
