Hey sunbeam, I sent you an email... What struck me was that your H is kind of doing something he really wasnt doing before..and thats meeting you half way more now. Like leaving his phone out, asking for your help to block her email (have you done that? Are you going to?) and buying you more personal gifts and not just gadgets (and trying to get you those shoes.. no man has ever attempted to buy me shoes!) Maybe he did listen to your list of demands, it just took him a while (HIS timezone, not yours!) to get around to tackling them. Not all the things you asked, but a bit more than before?
I still dont understand the lack of intimacy..but argueing wont help, no. But you know you shouldnt throw spiteful words at him, even withouth the S and piecing, but thats the old maria.. and you know better now..right !? But I found too, like addie that in many ways, we have slipped back into old patterns, or dynamics of our old R, but it IS better than before.
Your son is amazing, thats very sweet. And I assume your H isnt going anywhere although neither of you dare say that becuase you are both still cautious, or tell your daughter. I'm so glad you let him come back in though...
How about quietly clearing some of that closet space to make 'room' for him, without making a big deal out of it?
Jupiters on its way !! Woohoo... xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
Jupiters on its way !! Woohoo not sure what that means but I keep getting this message...
<<The future holds more tangible treasures and pleasures, than anything the past has threatened to take away. Don’t be too quick to judge. Every ending is a new beginning.>>
I wonder how my three favourite Geminis on these boards (me, kerry and Maria's husband) will interpret this.....
I am back to work today. Most of the people are still off because tomorrow is a holiday again.
Last night me and H watched a movie with R. Gere and Saron Stone and another lady with an -ic in the end, Davidovic I think. He left his wife for his GF and then right when he decided he wanted to marry his GF, he had a car accident and died. Karma is a bitch and then you die...
Of course I got a bit affected and we had a small "talk" while in bed. He said he cant take me being always worried and questioning him. I didnt accept that and asked him what he meant by "questioning" and "always". Because, I swear, I dont call, I dont check up on him, I dont investigate his whereabouts, etc etc. I am TOO trusting if I have to say something... I asked him if he thought I was irrational. What LESS could I do to make him feel comfortable? He reluctangly agreed but said he FEELS this way... He said he is TRYING very hard not to react to my "worries". The convo ended with me saying to him that if he lies again to me, he is dead. Literally. DEAD. That's why I want him to make a Life Insurance. He laughed (but looked a bit scared-LOL).
I brought up his lack of sex interest. I didnt want to start a discussion about it, I just said it bothers and concerns me. He only said, "that doesnt mean he is elsewhere with his mind or heart".
Right now, I am facing the following: I talk, he listens, he may say something but he NEVER elaborates, explains, shares his thoughts/feelings etc. We talk and in the end, I leave the convo with nothing new added from his side. It feels like talking to a wall... K
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
Right now, I am facing the following: I talk, he listens, he may say something but he NEVER elaborates, explains, shares his thoughts/feelings etc. We talk and in the end, I leave the convo with nothing new added from his side. It feels like talking to a wall...
Communication is...well.....
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
He laughed (but looked a bit scared-LOL).