Well it’s been a while since I updated, there’s not too much to report. Christmas passed off OK, kids spent the day with me and then went to their father’s for a couple of hours in the evening. It made me sad that they went and have been put in the position of deciding what to do, where to go and when but that’s the sitch we’re in. New Year, kids went their own ways, I went to visit an old friend and catch up with others and then called in at MILs. They made me welcome which was lovely.
Didn’t send a card or present to my H although he did send a card to me. Was apparently upset that I didn’t send him one. My reason for not doing so is that although we are friendly we are not friends so it no longer seems appropriate.
Next thing is my FILs upcoming birthday. It’s a big one and the family have organized a surprise party to which I’ve been excluded. OW has been invited but is not going. I hate this bit, I love my FIL and believe him to be fond of me, I’ve known him for 25+ years and it does seem unfair that I’m not involved in the celebrations. I also think that this would be a good opportunity for me and my H to demonstrate to the family that although we’ve separated we can still function on a civil basis. What do others think? I’m considering a direct approach and asking if I can go along too. On the other hand it could be seen as me being controlling and less detached than I portray.
Seem to have backslid a bit on the detachment, it may be just the emotion of Christmas etc and when I’m back at work proper I’ll get a better grip on things.
Why, even after all this time, do I sometimes what to scream, just come home and sort this out?
OK time to stop whining and get back on the horse.
