I wish I would have been able to let go of a hopeless situation earlier. Congratulations (as strange as that sounds) on having a swift break.
Your former spouse's personal life is none of your business. Your personal life is none of hers. That right ended with the divorce. Set that boundary. Inform her. End the discussion before it starts. Say, "Gotta go" if she doesn't listen and hang up, go.
Kudos on beginning to find the person you're meant to be. That's so neat.
