Getting Un"Stuck" - Giving My Burden to God

[MrBond]

I think everyone outside the immediate family can see it, however she seems to compartmentalize the problem so that it is just in the M that she is unhappy. Or rather just when she's around me.

Her sister and mom aren't ones to make waves and have the belief that if you're unhappy, just leave the sitch no matter what it is. Her dad left her mom and I think this is what she honestly believes. So her sister and her mom really believe it's the M that was the problem. Plus I think they are so used to seeing her like this that they accept it for what it looks like.

So no help there.

If my W was like Big Johns and did everything in her power to piss me off, then this would have ended a long time ago. However, I remember way back when this first happened when she first asked me if it was possible to love more than one person when she was in the EA with the OM. She chose the OM, but it went against everything she believed in. Right after that was when the lightswitch turned on and I became the root of her problems. To this day I don't think she understands it herself fully.

She still works with him, although indirectly. But I feel it's that constant contact with him that is holding her down.

Unfortunately she has no positive role model to show her what a good M is like and how much work it takes. She really thinks it's something she feels. And she refuses to work on it.

But that's her. I continue to thrive and pray for her healing at the same time. Sometimes I do wish there were something I could do as it's hurting the kids most of all.