Please..I really need some advice!!!

[sandi2]

We are supposed to get together tomorrow night to talk about things

Who proposed this talk? What could be talked about that hasn't been covered in past talks?

My thinking is to just lay everything out and let her know she is free to do whatever she feels she needs to do.

She is D from you, so she's going to do whatever she wants.

.....I am tired of the limbo and want to move on.....

In order to do that, you'll have to drop that rope you have tied around her. When you talk about it before, you talked as if you couldn't do that. So, have you reached a place emotionally that you can?

.....I guess the time has come to really let her go and let her deal with all this herself......This is hard for me, but I know it must be done.....

We could have a good thing, but she won't let that happen

This right here is where you have a problem letting go. You keep seeing what you could have--if only she would cooperate.

A guy can only take so much rejection and I think I have had my fill..

Yes, and it is not healty for you to keep going back for more.

Nothing I have done has accomplished that and sadly, I don't think there is a man on earth that can do it either.....It's out of my hands.....She is on her own...

That's right. You cannot fix her.....you can't even help her b/c this is something that is "her" problem. That is why I suggest that you do not rehash old R talks with her. If you tell her anything, tell her that since she refuses to give up the OM--that you see no future in being "friends" with her and you are going to live your own life S from her.

I don't think you've ever told her that you wouldn't be friends with her, have you? That's b/c you've allowed her to cake eat throughout this whole ordeal and you could not let go of her. Can you let go of the friendship? B/c that is just another word that a lot of people use to keep them tied to their WAS.