"One thing I've noticed is that he doesn't bring up a lot of things that were his "reasons" for leaving in the first place. Some things have come up and we've talked about them pretty rationally and he doesn't have that intense "you did this" and "you never did this" thing going on when they start spewing in the beginning to justify what they're doing."
It reminds me that H is still in the normal blame phase. IF he hears anything the MC says at this point, that is really really good. H blamed me today by claiming I was the one that "started bad patterns early on in our relationship" and that he "stooped to my level" and THAT is what caused all our problems.
Ok, sure. 8 years of his own choices and actions but it's all my fault for some argument that occurred at the beginning of time. Thank you for reminding me of this phase of justifying their departure - there is really no other explaination for such a bizarre rationalization!!!!
